Matchmakers and dating gurus instruct you on how to nab a date and what to do once you are in a relationship. But who can you turn to when it all falls to pieces. Where is the instruction manual for breakups and getting back out there? There really is not a “person” for that other than yourself. You may ask, Is there actually a “waittime” for dating again after a relationship has ended? No. It varies depending on your situation.
Then how will you know when you are ready to date again?
In short, you won’t know until you “know.” Be sure to care for yourself and meet all of your needs to make YOU happy after a breakup.
I understand, that’s not advice you were hoping for but are you ready for the truth? Blogger Ashley Fern writes, “When you least expect it, love will come find you and remind you of who you are.” Until then, you will not be ready to date again.
The fun part about love is that there is enough for everyone.
You could bump into your future husband on the elevator to the lobby leaving your divorce attorney. OR you may not meet another partner until months or years down the road. Both of these circumstances are ok. As long as you get that “I’m ready to date” song in your heart.
On the flipside, if you need more than just fate to help you discover when you are ready to date again, take time to yourself. Deliberately take time for yourself to be single and become whole again. Breakups take a toll on your mind, body, and spirit. Each part of your being must be restored. You cannot share your joyful spirit with someone if it is broken. Through all of my experience, determining whether or not your are ready to date is relative. Everyone has a different story. Just keep in mind some stories take longer to write than others. Do not jump into another relationship for the sake of having a relationship. You are the protagonist in your life’s story. Go forth, be merry, and once you find your joy after a breakup, love will be following soon after.